Couples that are fighting tend to spend a lot of time thinking about heavy topics that pull them apart. Oftentimes, they forget about the strengths that brought them together in the first place. Talking about shared values, experiences, and beliefs can help a couple remember why they're fighting for their relationship. The Relationship Building: Shared Qualities worksheet can help to nudge the conversation in a positive direction, while highlighting important strengths.
In this activity, your couples will start by talking about some fun topics, such as movies and music that they both enjoy. As the worksheet progresses, they will be asked about progressively more serious topics, such as goals the couple shares. This activity can also create a great opportunity to practice healthy communication skills such as reflective listening, or time-outs of things get derailed.
1. Epstein, R., Warfel, R., Johnson, J., Smith, R., & McKinney, P. (2013). Which relationship skills count most? Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 12(4), 297-313.