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Childhood Grief: Guidelines for Caregivers

Speaking bluntly about death does not come naturally to most adults. Words like “dead” and “died” are rephrased and softened, becoming “passed on” or “no longer with us.” Talking too much about death, or asking too many questions, is taboo.

When it comes to children, the subject of death can feel even more sensitive. However, research tells us that our tendency to shield children from reality might be counter-productive. Talking to children about death in code and metaphor, or as something that needs to be quickly answered and dismissed, only serves to confuse.

The Childhood Grief: Guidelines for Caregivers worksheet includes brief research-based guidelines for talking to children, and helping them cope, with the death of a loved one.

This handout is designed for parents and caregivers who might not know how to approach this difficult subject, or who would like reassurance. Therapy can be used to practice these conversations, or identify and problem-solve guidelines that might be difficult to implement.

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