Love languages are the ways people show and receive love. For example, one person might feel loved when their partner prioritizes spending time together. However, another person might not need a lot of time with their partner. Instead, they want to hear “I love you” and other words of affirmation.
In therapy, love languages are a great way to prompt a positive conversation between partners. Use love languages to explore the ways people express their love, and how those messages are received.
The Love Languages worksheet lists the five languages, along with examples of each. The love languages are:
There has been little research into love languages as a scientific model for communication within relationships. For this reason, the languages should not be taken too literally, nor should they be used as a basis for treatment.
However, love languages resonate with people around the world. They provide helpful language for couples to discuss their problems and their needs, and a fun starting point for exploration within a relationship.
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