Planning Rewards and Consequences

Rewards and consequences are some of the most powerful tools at a parent’s disposal. When used effectively, they discourage unwanted behavior and promote healthy replacement behaviors. However, many parents become frustrated when their attempts at using rewards and consequences are ineffective. Common pitfalls, such as the inconsistent use of consequences, can completely undermine their value.

Using the Planning Rewards and Consequences worksheet, you will help parents create a plan for how and when they will use rewards and consequences. Parents begin by identifying a specific “unwanted behavior” and several consequences to discourage this behavior. Next, they will identify several “replacement behaviors” and rewards to encourage these new alternatives.

This worksheet is only one part of the puzzle. Before outlining specific rewards and consequences, it may be helpful to discuss how to use these techniques. We suggest the How to Use Rewards and Consequences worksheet as an introduction to this topic.